The Power of Gratitude

Gratitude is a powerful tool that can transform the way we experience life. It is the quality to appreciate and be thankful for all the good things we enjoy around us. This state of mindfulness can help to reduce feelings of worry and fear about the future or regret about the past.

We can practice Gratitude in various ways. 

One of the most effective methods is by keeping a gratitude journal. In a gratitude journal, we write down things that we are thankful for, focusing on even the smallest and seemingly insignificant things. 

Another way to practice gratitude is by expressing appreciation to others. This can be as simple as saying thank you or writing a note of gratitude to someone who has made a positive impact on your life.

Gratitude can also be practiced through mindfulness meditation. During meditation, we focus our attention on the present moment and deliberately cultivate feelings of gratitude towards ourselves, others, and our environment. 

By doing so, we can develop a deeper appreciation of the interconnectedness of all things in our lives.

Overall, gratitude is a powerful tool that can help us to live more fulfilling and meaningful lives. By practicing gratitude, we become more aware of the abundance in our lives, develop a deeper appreciation for the simple things, and experience greater levels of happiness and contentment.

Whether through journaling, expressing appreciation to others, or meditation, incorporating gratitude into our daily lives can have a transformative impact on our overall well-being.

Lessons from Mother Nature

 Nature is an incredible teacher, offering countless lessons that can inspire and guide us in various aspects of life. Here are ten lessons we can learn from nature:

Resilience: 

Nature shows us the power of resilience, constantly adapting to changing circumstances. Just as plants find a way to grow in harsh environments, we can learn to bounce back from challenges and setbacks.

Interdependence:

In nature, everything is interconnected. Each organism relies on others for survival, creating a delicate balance. Recognizing our interconnectedness can teach us the importance of collaboration and cooperation in our communities.

Patience: 

Nature operates on its own timeline, not rushing or forcing things. Trees take years to grow, and rivers carve through rocks over centuries. Embracing patience allows us to appreciate the process and understand that good things often take time.

Diversity: 

Biodiversity is a fundamental aspect of nature, with various species coexisting and thriving together. Nature teaches us the value of embracing diversity and celebrating our differences, fostering a richer and more vibrant world.

Impermanence: 

Change is an inherent part of nature. Seasons shift, flowers bloom and wither, and landscapes transform. Accepting impermanence can help us navigate life's transitions and find beauty in each moment.

Adaptation:

Nature exemplifies the ability to adapt to new circumstances. Species evolve to survive in different environments and face changing conditions. Learning to adapt can enable us to thrive in an ever-changing world.

Balance:

Nature maintains balance by regulating resources and cycles. From the delicate equilibrium of ecosystems to the harmony of day and night, we can learn the importance of balance in our own lives, seeking equilibrium between work and play, rest and activity.

Simplicity: 

Amidst the complexity of nature, simplicity often prevails. Many natural systems follow efficient and minimalist designs. Embracing simplicity can help us focus on what truly matters and find peace in a cluttered world.

Harmony with cycles: 

Nature operates in cycles, from the water cycle to the life cycle. Embracing the rhythm of these cycles can teach us the importance of rest, rejuvenation, and the natural ebb and flow of life.

Sustainability: 

Nature demonstrates the importance of sustainability. It operates in a circular economy, where waste is minimized, and resources are recycled. Learning from nature's sustainability practices can guide us towards more environmentally conscious living.

By observing and reflecting on these lessons from nature, we can gain valuable insights and apply them to our personal growth, relationships, and the way we interact with the world around us.

My Favourite Teachers

                                Being a teacher, I take the opportunity of dedicating the compliments I receive from different persons, young or old. The credit of such compliments goes to my favorite teachers during my studies.

I can easily recall the memory of my first teacher in class nursery, but not out of respect or what I have learnt from her. That job was performed by my late father, for teaching, by my mother by supervising me and on the third place my sister for helping me in my homework when it was left undone (sometimes) and the gaps in my work or when I was not well, acting as my substitute.

Though I can make out the mental picture of Maths and English notebooks with the letters written in pink colour pencil in these notebooks as clear as real now, but nothing has ever come in my mind as a sweet memory of learning at school except with some funny, fighting, games, cultural items and events.

I have learnt from many teachers, but in school Mrs Joginder Bajaj was my favorite teacher who taught me Maths from class 8th to 10th. Yes, she was my favorite teacher, many students didn't like her. It was not her fault, it was the fault with their minds, they were not sharp enough to understand Maths with their poor base in Maths. She had always taken care of my performance and had never let it lag behind.

I remember very well how she used to take extra care of my study by solving my problems from extra books she arranged specially for me, for extra practice.

I can recall a special incidence when she called me to her place as my problems were pending and she had to go out of station the next day. I went to her place. We both sat on a double bed (cross-legged) with books and notebooks scattered (by me) on it, she was helping me in solving sums and entertaining me with eatables. This part of learning, is surely not a part of teaching anywhere at least not near my place. I wonder if I could forget her.

Then, in college Sir Nachhatar Singh taught us Cost Accounting. He was also made fun of, as he was handicapped and always tried to hide his hand in the right pocket of his pants. His way of teaching was too good.  In college, only a few of the students pay attention in class as most of them take tuition in difficult subjects. I was not like most of them.

I had a lot of problems in that subject. Sir, understood, that I was solving the questions and would ask me, "In case there is any problem, let me know and give me a slip bearing the question no. and name of the chapter ". (It was never expected that time in my college). Next day I would receive the handwritten solutions to all my problems. Because of his such efforts I never found the Cost Accounting difficult as most of the students tell till this day.

After, about five years of my graduating from college I came to know the sad part of his life, that was over. He committed suicide by jumping in the lake just two days before his marriage was scheduled as he didn't want to ruin that girl's life (They say it was revealed in his suicide note.)

So, I think a teacher is good only if he or she is available to the students.

The knowledge is important to stay in this competitive world. A teacher's knowledge is accepted only if shared with the students.

I pray to God to help me in my pursuits.

Remember Favorite Dialogues of Your Teacher?

My Favourite Students

                          

During the long span of teaching, I have taught hundreds of students. Still, when I have to count for my sweet memories, some students, I really miss and would like to see them again in my life. I want to see If the students who were so good by nature, their character, their maturity, their devotion, attachment have really done well in their life also.

The foremost to count is A C, with curly hair cut short - and soft-spoken girl. She was secretary of students' council. Speaking loudly or harshly to anyone was out of question, totally duty-bound fun making girl. The most memorable event is trip to Simla and Kufri.

Then come the R and R duo. R with her sharp nose, long braid and sweet smile, was her father’s daughter extremely protected nice girl. R was her best mate with curly hair cut short with good voice, ready to sing on slight provocation. She would always carry a diary in her bag with the hit songs written in it, to be used anytime. The most memorable is the night, we all were awake gossiping in a gurudwara at Dehradun, while all other students and teachers were sleeping.

P K was a soft and sober girl with bold writing, always stood second in class. Much was expected from her in this field but after 12th class came to know that she was under influence of some evil spirit and was physically not keeping well. She didn’t join the college and was married after some time.

PC, a fat, bold, self-confident girl with curly hair enclosing a logical mind underneath, was the president of students' council. She was the best speaker. What a self-determined student can do, was proved by her. She is rightly placed in career (media). The most memorable trip to Kempty falls.

M was a simple girl with wheatish complexion. She left the first impression of a negative personality. But till date, I can rarely count any other girl so affectionate, and duty bound. She was one of the best monitors of my classes till date.

Dk was fat, fair, calm and affectionate girl, she was made class monitor. She performed the duties very honestly for almost two years, when just before the preparatory holidays I relieved her of her duties, so that she can concentrate more on studies.

AR was a charming, fair and decent girl with sharp nose. She was very diplomatic, calm and composed girl. She knew how to adjust the tone of her voice while handling different issues. She was intelligent and president of the students' council.

SC was a very intelligent, soft spoken, mature and diplomatic girl. She was handed over the duties of secretary of students' council. She always stood first or second in the class. She proved her maturity and intelligence on three very important occasions, she is worthy of praise beyond limit.

NC was a beautiful, charming, intelligent, tall girl with long braid. She was a player and a model. She was so calm, decent and down to earth that on even being made Miss India North-West, she didn’t lose her composure. She was extremely respectful towards everyone.
J and P sisters, in different batches, were again very affectionate, intelligent, and responsible girls. P was a national player and knew how to keep a balance between curricular and co-curricular activities.

D a sweet, beautiful, a national champion in Ball badminton, also stood first in class, unforgettable.

S a tall, intelligent, monitor of my class always stood first in class.
PG was an intelligent, sweet, humble and duty-bound girl. She hardly refused anyone for any work. The most interesting thing about her, if she would be sent for some work, she would return after almost half the period was over. Because she would be caught by some another teacher for her work, and PG had to do that work also, still she never lagged behind in her studies and stood first in her class.

S was short, intelligent, sober, dark complexioned, girl with spectacles on her face and long braid on her back. She also stood first in her class, she was a great artist, her sketching was too good.

B like S was also a sober, short, intelligent, girl with smile on her face. She was calm but had good relations with all her classmates alike. She always stood second in her class.

I, N and V were the students of the same class. The first impression given by I, I would keep him set in the class, as he seemed to be over smart. But he proved to be the best boy of the class. Cooperative, duty bound, all-rounder, affectionate, well mannered, you name the qualities, and he had. N possessed all the qualities of a good leader, polite, fun loving, patience, diplomacy, she had these all. She had always maintained the balance between extra activities and studies. V was really a genius. Though kept himself away from extracurricular activities, but very decent and intelligent boy.

GT and AB were also very good boys. GT had all the leadership qualities where AB had a unique, intelligent, fun loving, balanced personality.

V, M, R, A, M, R, a group of decent and loyal six. First four proved their worth. VMRAM were exactly same, but R was a little different. They carried the torch of the class on, by marking their presence daily. The intelligence and presentation of paper by VMRA were too good. All of them remained calm and composed without affected by any disturbances of outside world.

Here comes my next batch. LB, SK, LP proved to be shining more than anyone else. We, teachers used to discuss the main reason of entering the class because of three students and they have proved it. LB appeared to be naughty to some, proved his hold on everything and specially the role of determination and self-confidence in the success. He was a good diplomat maintaining balance with all under all circumstances. Every piece of knowledge was stored in his mind like a computer memory. The SK always behaved like taking all the knowledge from teachers as though its not possible to do that again. He can be compared to question generating software. LP, a calm, shy and intelligent boy proved to be strong enough in the odds of life with his intelligence and performance, and shine like anything, without making any sound.

These are the jewels in my career, though I can count a large number of students for sweet memories.

Note: If any one of the above-mentioned students ever come to read this and is able to recognize, I would love his/her photo to be posted here. 

After this article was written (many years ago), I didn't write like this. My favorite students found a permanent place at commerceatease.com to advise other students.

Do You Regularly Clear This Cache?

The life is becoming complex in this dynamic world day by day. We come across a variety of people with variety of their moods, expectations and experiences, actions and reactions. We also behave differently with different people at different times.

Every person is under some sort of stress. In less time we want to achieve more. Some people are able to manage their stress whereas the others are not.

It usually happens that whenever some person hits our dignity, self-respect or doesn't come true to our expectations we just happen to create a negative image of that person, open a virtual account in our mind and keep on registering all the chronological events relating to interaction with him. That account stands dormant with positive event but every so called slightly negative event enters that account with compound interest till date.

I had been working for a long period of time on my website. It passed through various ups and downs like any other work . The person maintaining the site now also showed the same behaviour. Like in any other case of technical work, his response can be compared to fluctuation in voltage of electricity in summers. However, he has been handling it in a very good manner from the beginning.

As I am very anxious about my website and want to do a lot, I keep on sending messages to him regarding any issue till it is finally resolved.

Now, something happened. I had been sending messages regarding some issues on my website that were major for me but minor according to him. I opened the same account , started making the same entries. Within a week's time, the account had accumulated a large balance.

The website was not opening on laptop properly. It opened after, like jumping on the laptop, showing some broken images before opening properly. When I tried to open it on my cell phone, two logos were appearing instead of one. I couldn't control myself. Again, I called him. He didn't pick the phone. It made the situation worse.

After a few minutes again made a call. He picked up. I told him the problem. He said, everything is fine on his side. He started telling me about the various issues, and I would interrupt him regarding the problem in opening of the site. He said, "Pehle Cash clear krlaena see"(in Punjabi). I replied,"cash v clear ho jayega pehlan kamm tan hove"(in Punjabi) means "Cash will be cleared after the clearance of work." Then he clarified that he meant 'çache' not 'çash'. He told me how to do it, but I won't listen to him. Then he asked me to wait for some more time.

In the meantime, I searched Google: 'How to clear the cache?' Obviously, Google as usual, offered its services. I cleared the cache of my laptop, and the website opened very nicely. Then, I cleared cache of my cell phone again after searching the Google as to how cache of Android phone should be cleared. It again helped me. When I opened my website from cellphone, it again opened very nicely with only one logo, however. By the next call I told him that everything is fine now.

But, honestly speaking, I felt a strong jolt by the process and aftereffects of clearing the cache.

Same thing happens with our lives. we keep on gathering the events and experiences in our mind like a savings bank account to play safe in times of need. But actually, that accumulated stuff gets rotten and keeps on polluting our minds. 

So, we must disregard the unwanted negative thoughts time to time so that mind can clearly look ahead. We must clear our mental cache regularly.

Our Beloved Pet

  

                                                

When the whole world on social media is looking down upon a festival which involves the practice of committing all types of atrocities on dogs, burning them, suffocating them, slaughtering them It becomes more apt to write something on my beloved pet-rather OUR BELOVED PET.

He is not into show business, he does not appear in youtube videos, he doesn’t jump through the metallic or wooden rims, he does not pick up the pegs from the ground nor does he run in a zigzag manner, he doesn't perform stunts of any sort.  He never goes for picking up newspaper. He has never won any race or title in any show at local or national level, but he has surely won many hearts and is very adorable.

He wags his tail on seeing everyone at home. Whenever the doorbell rings in the house, he runs to the gate as if he is the person to whom the guest has come to see. When the gate is opened he can easily guess, whether the guest is known or a stranger. If there is a stranger, he won’t stop expressing his negative reaction towards that person by raising his voice and frightening that person in such a manner that it begins to appear that he would be torn apart simultaneously bringing that unknown person to the rest of the family member’s attention as well.

But if that guest is known to any of the housemates, he would keep quiet and would wag his tail and again will raise his voice but this time in a different manner so that he can greet the person and hug him. He cannot speak our language but he understands all the words that are repeatedly used in home. He understands different situations and acts and reacts accordingly. He knows exactly how to behave and react accordingly keeping in mind the nature of different people whether at home or outside.

He changes his tones and expressions for demanding different things, different for having car ride; he would run here and there after whosoever can fulfill his demand. Whenever there’s some tension around, he can sense it and would keep calm and quiet. In case there is excitement around, he would sense it too. He doesn’t remain alone. He would sit there, where he can see all the family members i.e. any central place in the house. He knows how to see anyone off to work. He is so caring he won’t sleep at night till all the family members are back home.

He knows his biological timetable. He very well sticks to it—for eating, sleeping, for outing etc. He knows where he is allowed to sit where not. He can recognize his blanket, his utensils. He enjoys eating ice-cream like a little baby does, he licks the ice-cream like a baby does. He can be seen eagerly waiting to eat ice-cream. He understands when he is made to wait for his favorable eatables, cookies. He has that much patience. It can take many pages to write on this adorable creation of God.

I can recall my childhood memory of always fearing a dog and hitting him with a stone. I really feel bad about. I feel bad about the people doing any type of harm to dogs, not only dogs but other birds and animals also.

Though a lot has been written on pets by innumerable persons over time, I would recommend every family to have one pet at least once. And see how a friend becomes a family member.

Zorro will live forever in our stray dogs that have become pets....cotd.

Do you want to keep a pet dog?

Every Cloud Has a Silver Lining

                    

                                 

For many days I had been feeling depressed, depressed and depressed. The life seemed to be of no use. 'Worthlessness of life' was the main thought sucking my energy and time. Though, I don't want to be pessimistic and always try to keep the life meaningful, many a times I become the victim of this negative thinking.

This continued for many days without any reason.

Then, suddenly a midnight series of diarrhea and vomiting diverted my mind, followed by severe stomachache. Doctor advised medication and asked to go for getting an ultrasound, in case the pain does not subsidize. The pain did not go. Ultrasound confirmed something.

Severe and persistent pain took me to another doctor the next morning, who confirmed my getting to go under knife for emergency appendix surgery. He had a doubt of bursting the appendix and showed us the chances of open surgery instead of laparoscopy.

Immediately the preliminary tests were conducted, and the surgery was performed. It took two and half hours as against the expected time of one hour. On my coming out of operation theater, doctor told my sister the reasons of getting the surgery prolonged due to removal of some extra growth of some soft tissue with pancreas. Bed rest was prescribed by the doctor.

I had never felt so light in my entire life, the way I felt immediately after getting discharged from hospital. I thought the negativity that I had been carrying in me had just piled up and resulted into the need of surgery, that was removed by surgery. Instantly, I began to feel light and nice. I thought of never thinking negative again.

I thank God for not giving me the time to think for preparing for the surgery, secondly, for showing the doctor the other thing during the same operation. Still another, the third reason, for the success in the search of a friend after twenty years, when suddenly on posting my original picture on facebook profile, she responded to my message by sending a friend request which I keenly accepted, simply to be overjoyed. Thank God.

(An old post published now.)